Timo wrote:Best of luck, Cog. All other differences aside, i'm pulling for you.
Cog wrote:As I have donned my executor hat, instead of my guardianship hat, there will be some drama coming up with some of my relatives. As my lawyer has explained, nothing brings out the worst in people than an estate settlement. In this case, I will be selling my father's farm to a farmer and not to my nephew. The farmer's bid was higher, he wants to buy it as is, and with no inspection contingencies. But I know I am going to get some crap about it.
The deal is as executor, your goal is to maximize the assets of the estate and not let family desires/ heartburn affect your decisions. Legally, I don't have to accept any offer, from anyone.
I'm trying to ignore the fact that my nephew couldn't possibly get the financing for this deal. I'm going with the farmer, who has the money, and has pursued the property for months now.
jedrider wrote:Isn't it better to kill oneself once alzheimer's sets in?
I remember reading about this woman journalist independent person who left herself instructions on how to kill herself that even a demented person could follow.
If I succumb to a mental illness before the world falls apart, I wouldn't want to burden my kids with looking after me. I think I would arrange for some inexpensive help as long as possible.
jedrider wrote:I did LIKE the ending to 'Soylent Green': The Euthanasia Center. I'm sure, they meant that as a shock to the movie audience. However, nobody wants to die in pain. If they could make it pleasant, I wouldn't care who ate me afterwards
Cog wrote:Timo wrote:Best of luck, Cog. All other differences aside, i'm pulling for you.
Thanks you Timo. If we live long enough, regardless of our positions on peak oil, politics, etc., we will all go through something similar. Its a huge pain in the ass to be honest.
But the good news is you can be proactive to spare your kids a lot of the drama by having a good will or by setting up pay on death or transfer on death accounts. When I die, everything is co-owned by the wife. If we both die within 30 days of each other, then the daughter is a contingent inheritor. Very little remains to settle that way.
Cog wrote:I've spoken about being a guardian but being an executor has some different responsibilities. Below are some things I learned so far.
1) Get the certified death certificates from the funeral home as soon as possible. The standard is to give you 15 of them. I ordered 20. In actuality you won't need the 15. Only social security and my dad's life insurance policy required an actual certified copy, the rest of the places I dealt with only wanted a photocopy. But get them quickly because most places want to see one.
2) Get a lawyer. You don't have to give them a percentage of the estate if you have some time to run around yourself. Lawyers cost money to the estate and you can save money by doing the running. There are deadlines involved such as filing the will in the county court house. In my state you have 30 days from time of death to make that happen. Lawyers can make this all pretty and if probate is involved, they can get the judge to sign off on your executor papers fairly quickly.
Timo wrote:OK! That's it! I've read enough about postmortem aftershocks. Not worth it. I can't, in good conscience, leave all of those responsibilities to someone else to take care of on my behalf. So, while reading this thread, i've made a decision. I'm simply not going to die. Everything will be much simpler that way. Don't worry, though. I'll turn out the lights.
Alfred Tennyson wrote:We are not now that strength which in old days
Moved earth and heaven, that which we are, we are;
One equal temper of heroic hearts,
Made weak by time and fate, but strong in will
To strive, to seek, to find, and not to yield.
Cog wrote:I think you will find religious viewpoints constantly evolving on end of life decisions. From the Christians I deal with there nearly a universal agreement that a patient refusing treatment for a terminal illness is not suicide. With the advent of hospice workers and a lot of doctors who are getting more intelligent about end of life treatments, there is not as much guilt involved with stopping treatment when there is no hope. That takes a lot of burden away from the family members.
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