Narz wrote:ennui2 wrote:Or for Narz. He's had bad experiences with women, as have I. Would it be fair to generalize that "all women" are nothing but trouble? I don't think so.
If you find some counter-evidence feel free to give her my #.
You're still on a dating site, right? Keep your eyes open. You're younger than I am. Time is on your side, even if the odds aren't (for any of us misfit red-pillers).
Narz wrote:I try to be objective, I really do. But I feel like being objective is depressing because reality, well, kind of sucks. There's a reason religious people are generally healthy & happier & it's not because they're right it's because there are such things as healthy, comforting delusions.
Suspension of disbelief that comes from reading a book or watching a TV show or movie serves a similar purpose. The only difference is when you're done with the escapism you're capable of stepping back in the real world. So that explains my interest in animation. I have no faith whatsoever that we will invent warp drive and do all the stuff in Star Trek. It used to be considered "hard sci-fi" but now I see most of the genre as an offshoot of fantasy. I think it's part of the human condition to dream. Art can't exist without the capacity for imagination. It's healthy, as long as you always know the difference between the real and the imaginary. I understand that our predicament has a lot to do with applying false myths (like that of infinite progress) to the real world.
Narz wrote:I think people would be better off worrying less about being correct & more about whether their beliefs actually served them. Obviously if you're dealing with chemicals or navigating traffic it pays to be exact & precise but perhaps in some ways ignorance is bliss (as long as you choose your Gods/slogans carefully).
Well, it depends on how you direct your attention. I have suffered from tinnitus since I was a senior in college. On my own, without telling anyone about my condition, I had to slowly develop the mental discipline to cope with constant ringing in my ears. The only well-accepted "treatment" (if you want to call it that) is known as habituation. Habituation is a mental discipline in which your mental focus shifts away from the ringing. When other sounds are in the room, you focus on those other sounds (like the whirring of the hard drive in my computer). Sometimes just concentrating on an idea can be effective even when a white-noise masking source is not available. If I do not follow these disciplines, and allow myself to fixate on the ringing, I will fall into a pit of depression/anxiety.
To me, taking the red-pill is exactly like that. If I hang out on this forum or do all the other things I used to do, what I am essentially doing is focusing on my tinnitus. I am being reminded of a terrible situation that I have no control over and which is painful. Obsessing on doom got me in the hospital a few years ago with an anxiety attack. If I sit down and rewatch "What a Way to Go" or "Earth 2100" or "Home", I know I will backslide to where I was a few years ago. I will not be able to function in the real world.
The fantasy I had was to think that if I "do stuff" (aka preps) that I could juggle having doom on the forefront of my brain and being able to function at the same time. While I think preps would have helped, I don't think I can cope with the Anthropocene Extinction Event(TM) in the forefront of my thoughts 24/7. I need to stop and smell the roses, at which point, my day-to-day life and how I come across will not be that different from a latte liberal who recycles and drives a small car and grows some boutique tomatoes in the flower bed but otherwise doesn't think we're gonna crash.
Narz wrote:Yeah, that's why I gave up certain forums like one called "CivFanatics" (for fans of a computer game call Civilization). I felt compartmentalized there & people weren't really responding to me but what they thought I represented. I always tried to actually talk as if I was speaking to a human being, complete with, actually acknowledging the other person, lightening the mood, using humor but it didn't seem to work most of the time. The other side preferred to see me as a caricature of what they imagined me to be (an environmentalist, hippie, doomsayer, whathaveyou) and couldn't actually hear me because if they did they'd have to redefine themselves to include those labels within them.
Once you label someone you deny their humanity and it paves the way to hurt them without feeling guilty. This us vs. them mentality is one of the worst parts of our evolutionary heritage. We break off into tribes. I'm not immune from this, by using terms like "the truck-nutz crowd".
When I see this picture, I can't help but make lots of assumptions about this person. Because they think it's amusing to pose in this manner, because he's overweight with the Kevin Smith beard, etc... The end result is I do not respect this person and would not want to hang out with him. There are all sorts of instant judgments that I myself make like this which I would not want others to make of me. Last time I visited Vermont I went to Hardwick, The Town That Food Saved. I stopped by an icecream shop and a guy drives up and steps out of his truck with no shirt on. He looked like a typical redneck, and it cracked my rose-colored-glasses. (Ironically, little did I know the woman who was with me probably was more of a redneck than I was willing to admit.)
Whereas Toecutter admitted to having issues with authority, I have issues with
masculinity. (This is a big reason why the characters I write for are almost all women.) I view men who celebrate their masculinity by driving big trucks and following professional wrestling with disdain. This is because of my own baggage, having been the typical nerd who got beaten up in school while the captain of the football team was getting all the tail. As a beta-male (or gamma, heh) I have a grudge against the Alpha Male.
Where that rubs off on doomerism is me having a visceral revulsion towards people who teeter towards the weekend-warrior Militia types, and by extension, libertarian/anarchists who are still bitter about Ruby-Ridge and Waco and who think the jack-boot-thugs(TM) are gonna bust down their door. Too many men value their self-worth based on their
competitive ability, whereas I am wired for
cooperation.
The only saving grace here is that I have the humility to acknowledge my biases. Most people are unwilling to even admit they have them, and so when you point them out, it goes in one ear and out the other. If you want to identify the main role I served on this forum, it was me gate-crashing echo-chamber threads and trying to get people to stop and question whether they were just circle-jerking rather than actually getting towards some deeper truths. That's why you have the phrase "preaching to the converted".
There is a certain comfort in being within like-minded people, but it does get stale. There's also a certain "fun" in fighting the endless battle with rivals who will never change, just like battling endless waves of Space Invaders, knowing it will never end. But for me, the greatest sense of accomplishment is to feel like I actually DID get someone to think of something they wouldn't have otherwise thought, and it caused them to grow or make a different life-decision.
I think relationships in the broadest sense exist in order for us to grow as human beings. But I think a lot of us, maybe even most of us, treat other people solely as objects. Others are obstacles to push away or tools to use for advancement or temporary amusement.
So for me, love in its most general sense is in fact an acknowledgment of the other as a whole person. Me not feeling at home here has a lot to do with the petty infighting and cliquishness. You start out as a red-piller feeling very alienated from the rest of society and then you feel even MORE isolated after you realize that there are all these angry divisions even within doomerism itself.
Narz wrote:That's also why I got fed up with MonteQuest. He refused to let himself be seen as human. Talking about overpopulation as if humans truly were yeast.
I love nature, and grive for it, but those who put nature first and who almost look forward to population crashes as ecological right-sizing come across as misanthropic. Certainly the other species who are being driven to extinction deserve to live. If there ain't room on this planet for the weight of humanity and the rest of the biosphere, then what is the proper response? If it's someone like Monte, then it's the cognitive dissonance of issuing a lot of screeds about population overshoot on the one hand, and building raised beds that would keep sustain overpopulation on the other. Then he leaves when people talk about his own caretaker situation. (long forum veterans know about that, I won't dredge it up)
I really think the macro issues are unsolvable, and hence not worth the time for an individual to constantly mull over. We are not Gods who can guide humanity to do our bidding. We've already had people like Al Gore assemble worldwide events like Live Earth to no avail. There's nothing any of us can do individually that could significantly change the math. It's too much of a burden for any of us to handle. I do not have the statistics to show it, but I would bet you that the vast majority of doomers (and by doomers I mean doomers that are hardcore 24/7 doomers like the type who were constantly posting on LATOC) are miserable with their life. They are miserable not just because they took a red-pill, but because of the outlook on life they adopted in response to it.
The closest analogy one may draw is the terminal cancer patient. Once you know you're doomed, the quality of your life will be determined based on whether you fixate on the disease, maybe go on a wild goose chase for a miracle cure, or you just kind of make yourself comfortable and live more in the moment.
Focusing mostly on climate change here (since peak oil is kind of on the backburner for now). I think I turned the corner on activism after Nopenhagen. People simply prefer ignorance. I am on Facebook with other red-pillers and I see the sort of stuff they post in order to somehow convert the denialists. You know, mocking cartoons about Hurricane Sandy and stuff. Even Bill McKibben does all this sort of stuff on the 350.org page, draw parallels between weather and climate. Year after year, people keep pointing to more signs of doom and say "Look, NOW do you believe us????" I see all of this as a waste of time. I'm glad that people are out there doing this stuff, but I have no illusions whatsoever that we will collectively accept the situation for what it is, and we will simply adapt in lock-step with the problem (as it manifests itself through the economy and in cost-of-living) and not a minute sooner. So the frog will boil in the pot.
This kind of fatalism doesn't have the same drama nor provide the same crusader sense-of-purpose that activism does, however. That is why I think some people press onward. They do it because it helps make them feel important, or their conscience won't allow them to sit on their hands while Rex Tillerman and company continue issuing propaganda. But I think the jury is in that, even left to their own devices, people will construct their own realities even when the truth is staring them in the face. It's at times heartbreaking and infuriating but in the end I have to let all this stuff go and just get on with life as best I can.
"If the oil price crosses above the Etp maximum oil price curve within the next month, I will leave the forum." --SumYunGai (9/21/2016)