Ludi wrote:I spent many years totally miserable because I avoided seeing a doctor about my problems. Seriously, it is worth it to see a doctor.
Ludi wrote:Tyler, you might have borderline personality disorder, a very scary and miserable developmental disorder. I had several of the symptoms so spent some time on a BP messageboard and got to know some folks with the disorder. My symptoms were from bipolar disorder. Lots of these disorders share symptoms. If you're struggling through life, it's really worth it to see a physician to get referred to a psychiatrist. I spent many years totally miserable because I avoided seeing a doctor about my problems. Seriously, it is worth it to see a doctor.
mos6507 wrote: You're one of the most level-headed people here, at least you write that way.
Tyler_JC wrote:[And I think I'm going to see a therapist in the fall, just to go over a few things. My friends are getting tired of playing therapist on AOL instant messanger.]
hubbertspeak7777777 wrote:They just never learned to lie compulsively and put on an act. From my experience that's the only way to get along with people. At a party and can't think of anything to say? Just make up an interesting yet believable story or talk about bs that you could care less about like pro sports. Or rip off a funny joke from an obscure comedian so no one will know that you stole it and all of a sudden you become "funny". I see the "popular" people do it all the time.
Bottom line: If you want to get along with people, never under any circumstances be yourself. People never like you for who you really are, they just like the "phony" you, the act that you put on to impress people.
Parents who tell their children to "be themselves" are just setting them up for social failure.
Byron100 wrote:hubbertspeak7777777 wrote:They just never learned to lie compulsively and put on an act. From my experience that's the only way to get along with people. At a party and can't think of anything to say? Just make up an interesting yet believable story or talk about bs that you could care less about like pro sports. Or rip off a funny joke from an obscure comedian so no one will know that you stole it and all of a sudden you become "funny". I see the "popular" people do it all the time.
Bottom line: If you want to get along with people, never under any circumstances be yourself. People never like you for who you really are, they just like the "phony" you, the act that you put on to impress people.
Parents who tell their children to "be themselves" are just setting them up for social failure.
No frickin' way, man. You gotta be yourself, otherwise what's the point in being "you"?
I totally suck at lying, so I just say what comes to mind, or more often, start by asking questions. I know at least a little about a lot of things, so it's not that hard. I do have a sense of humor, but it's rather subtle, so people have to "work" at getting it...hehe. Since I am heard of hearing, noisy social gatherings can be difficult, but when I get a chance to talk face-to-face with someone, it usually results in a good outcome, whatever the topic may be.
By the way, I do tend to be friends with people that have Asperger's...to me, it's just a matter of "honing in" on their interests, as well as not being insulted by the lack of eye contact, long silences, etc. All that stuff is highly overrated anyhow, IMO. As for people that make stuff up, it won't go very far with me. While these people can be a lot of fun, it's rather disconcerting to see someone "putting on an act"...to me, it's very obvious when they do that.
Dunno, maybe I'm an oddball...LOL.
treetpflyer wrote:I just repeat to myself "Tack is for people who are not witty enough for sarcasim." And then realize that 90% of the people I encounter are idiots. So speak slowly and try really really hard not to be sarcastic, Cuz I get tired of expaining myself over and over again. It works for me at least!
hubbertspeak7777777 wrote:Byron100 wrote:hubbertspeak7777777 wrote:(...)
No frickin' way, man. You gotta be yourself, otherwise what's the point in being "you"?
I totally suck at lying, so I just say what comes to mind, or more often, start by asking questions. I know at least a little about a lot of things, so it's not that hard. I do have a sense of humor, but it's rather subtle, so people have to "work" at getting it...hehe. Since I am heard of hearing, noisy social gatherings can be difficult, but when I get a chance to talk face-to-face with someone, it usually results in a good outcome, whatever the topic may be.
By the way, I do tend to be friends with people that have Asperger's...to me, it's just a matter of "honing in" on their interests, as well as not being insulted by the lack of eye contact, long silences, etc. All that stuff is highly overrated anyhow, IMO. As for people that make stuff up, it won't go very far with me. While these people can be a lot of fun, it's rather disconcerting to see someone "putting on an act"...to me, it's very obvious when they do that.
Dunno, maybe I'm an oddball...LOL.
Maybe you're an exception to the rule, because most people are bullshitters. Or maybe you don't realize you're doing it. I think a lot of people do it sub-consciously. They learned to do it at a young age and it's become a habit. A habit that makes social success a lot easier.
hubbertspeak7777777 wrote:Then I'm another exception. Never learned how to lie, and was never a fan nor practioner of bullshitering. It's too obvious and pathetic. Actualy, with social interactions what was tougher was to realise that yes, most people (including me in the past) are so ignorant and misguided. It shouldn't be that way, but it is. Human's world is crap, it's a reality. It can change, but it hasn't changed yet.
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