PrestonSturges wrote:Yes, this happens all the time, like constantly. It's a shocker when family members steal from each other, but any time you get 4 or more people together, one of them will go on a financially driven psychotic rampage given a chance.
Old people become fearful and paranoid, and anyone can convince them that their families..
If you want to see the will it should be available as a public document.
SeaGypsy wrote:You didn't mention whether your dad was older or younger? My guess is younger.
Be carefull not to resent your grandfather for the wrong reasons. He may have just been following an old cultural norm. You didn't mention whether your dad was older or younger? My guess is younger.
Pretorian wrote:Well thats a bummer dude. There is nothing like being screwed by your own family isnt it.
94 is a lot of years , your grandfather could be demented, or otherwise mentally challenged and could be easily influenced. I suggest talking with everybody he was in contact with for the last 5 years..
papa moose wrote:Goodluck with your mourning process, it sounds like you loved your grandfather despite his distance and you are hurt by his lack of acknowledgement, as you said in OP even a quilt would have been a nice gesture. Your take on the situation seems quite reasonable to me.
Sixstrings wrote: Last I heard, no will has been filed yet but something has been done regarding probate. I'm not a lawyer so I don't understand all this. I have a brother up there, so even if I don't hire a lawyer then at least my brother can get a copy of the will (if it ever gets filed, it's been over two months now I don't understand how it's not been filed). Not that it even matters now that the executor (my uncle) has told me my father's children get nothing.
PrestonSturges wrote:You'll get a lot of free advice from an estate lawyer because it you have a probate fight they'll stick you for $100,000. That's how they get you.
I finally called my uncle the executor. He coldly told me "there will be no distribution for your father's children. Those were Dad's wishes."
Sixstrings wrote:This post is just about venting.. and I'm curious if anyone on the forum has had anything similar happen to them or in their family.
Xenophobe wrote:Sixstrings wrote:This post is just about venting.. and I'm curious if anyone on the forum has had anything similar happen to them or in their family.
Nothing rips apart a family so well as someone with money in the family dying. It doesn't even matter HOW the money is divvied up, it just turns into a mess. I haven't seen a family make it through in a reasonable way yet. Not once.
Read the story of Lord Conrad Black, how he was there when his father "fell through a banister" at their home.KingM wrote:Xenophobe wrote:Sixstrings wrote:This post is just about venting.. and I'm curious if anyone on the forum has had anything similar happen to them or in their family.
Nothing rips apart a family so well as someone with money in the family dying. It doesn't even matter HOW the money is divvied up, it just turns into a mess. I haven't seen a family make it through in a reasonable way yet. Not once.
My family has done fine. The company my great-grandfather founded is worth over half a billion dollars now and still going strong. It's a large, large family, and roughly 1/3 gets donated to charity with each generation. Still, a fair amount will probably reach me in the end. So far it has been passed on with complete equality between each sub-family and everyone still gets alone fine. I do see some minor squabbling over heirlooms, but nothing serious.
I haven't seen a family make it through in a reasonable way yet. Not once.
pup55 wrote:I haven't seen a family make it through in a reasonable way yet. Not once.
By the way, I agree with this statement completely. It does not matter how much or how little money there is involved...
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