Pops wrote:
But I settled down about then and needed to make a living; it happens. As to your original point Ibon, yes, definitely do not have kids if you don't want to be encumbered. At least for me, I became the nest builder after the chicks arrived, LOL. Unfortunately, acquisition became routine for me, so that now that our kids are long moved away, I'm encumbered by stuff.
Great post Pops. Not much different here. I was 34 when our first daughter was born and it did coincide with the end of the that adventurous wandering chapter and the start of my professional career.
Having a family turns one inward and more conservative and it is when you find yourself most nestling into the status quo. The instinct as a parent to protect and provide for your offspring actually is one of the drivers of consumption. It certainly happened to us.
I sold my business in 2004 and we exited the world of commerce, home schooled our 2 daughters for a year. Sold our house and got rid of all our stuff. Felt great. We wandered through Nepal, India, Philippines, Thailand, back through Europe. Our family remembers cherishes this time and experience spent together. We were 90 days in Nepal, on the Anapurna trail at the heighth of the maoist insurgency there and there were only 10% of the normal volume of trekkers. We made friends that have lasted until today. Our youngest daughter when she turned 18 two years ago went alone back to Kathmandu and studied buddhism in a monastary for a month before trekking solo with one of our nepalese friends we made years before.
By the way, do you think my daughters will take my advice about not having kids? I doubt it. Maybe it is the parent still in me that wants to spare them and my future grandchild the traps and suffering of hard times ahead. At other times I see opportunities for my daughters in these times of decline because neither of them are assuming any resiliency in the status quo and they may indeed ride the waves and troughs with more grace as a result.
I really like what you said about those Three Boxes of Life. They should all be happening all the time if one is to live a virtuous life I think.
Here at 56 the actuaries would say I have maybe 20 productive years so I'm thinking it is time I finally unencumbered myself of stuff. I am in the somewhat unique position of being able to work from anywhere I can get a cell signal or McDonalds' WiFi, so why not do a little wandering around - albeit fossil fueled wandering? Learn/work/play.
When I exited the world of commerce and made the choices that eventually brought me here in Panama I did have to access once again that warrior traveling space of my youth. I drew from that past and added the sobriety of middle age to make the leap to where we are today. That is partially why part of my advice to youth is to abandon the status quo for awhile, hit the road on a bicycle or a backpack and see the consumption paradigm from the outside and recognize it in all its repugnance in the arrogant way that only youth understand. One day you might find yourself older and wiser but still nimble enough to jump..... thanks to the practice you did in your youth.
along the way we would stop occasionally to visit with this kid or that great grandkid
(hear that Mrs. Ibon?
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She heard it. She is smiling. She wants grandkids. At least one from each daughter. How can I not support her in this when she puts up with living up here on the edge of the clouds.....