Ok, maybe I have not been lurking for a long time, but the last few months seem like forever since discovering PO and PO.com. Like many good people I was loafing along feeling fine, making progress, then the economy goes into the crapper, I lose two jobs in a row (still haven't found good work), and my life is thrown into shambles by something that is out of my control (although most of us have a bit part in this) and will most likely have terrible repercussions on my grandchildren (if not my children)...and my retirement plans.
I would say I waffle between stages 5-7 on the grief meter depending on the topic, with the occasional 1-4 if I am in a particularly melancholy mood. I have learned a few things though:
- Under no circumstances openly discuss this with your wife if she is like the other 6.99 billion people in the world. Break it to her slowly (sarcasm is a definite no-no) and let her draw her own conclusions. This probably applies to husbands too.
- Many more older people get it - by older I mean over 70. I don't know why this is. Maybe it is because they have seen the best and worst times for the world and are able to see through the BS. I have had conversations with complete stranger in this age group at the local dump (although we don't dump anymore, we transfer to some place willing to take it).
- Nobody can tell what is going to transpire. Personally, I think it is going to be bad. The machine is too big to slow down until the last loving drop of liquid gold is combusted or turned into a useful disposable container.
Anyway, I am happy to be part of the conversation and look forward to the shared wisdom of this site. There are many opinion that I respect and look forward to reading. Hopefully I can contribute something useful from time to time.