I'm not sure if this is appropriate, but my step-daughter would have been 30 this month. She died seven years ago aged 22, full of hope and not having been ground down by life.
My 15 year old daughter did an homage to her on Youtube http://www.youtube.com/user/MultiAlrac#p/a/u/0/t-PKsoQCBhw
To Bas' family and friends, it takes time to get over the grief. The pain can be unbearable. But it does subside. However, you never forget and nor should you. God bless.
For those looking for practical help, Kubler-Ross's books were a great help to my wife.
What we think, we become.